Everything You Need To Know About First Dates
Welcome to the first post in my ‘The Dating Guide’ series. I’ll be discussing all things relationships, dating and fuckboys but today is all about First Dates.
First dates always sound like a good idea until you realise you have to actually go and meet this total random person and somehow not make an absolute tit of yourself. Hard right? The getting ready part isn’t too difficult if you make yourself feel like a 10/10 but when it comes to leaving your house, your brain starts over thinking. What if he/she is a knob? What if there’s an awkward silence? What if I get food stuck in my teeth? Better not order anything with garlic in it. Or worse.. what if I have lipstick on my teeth? Would they tell me if I did or just say nothing? Shall I just cancel? Is it too late to say I have last-minute plans? Don’t you worry because you’re in the right place. This is the first post in my series and I’ll be discussing a lot more every week so make sure you stick around.
A first date can go two ways – you’re planning baby names in your head or you’re wondering how fast you can down your drink so you can go WhatsApp the girls about this disaster. Or, in my experience, you can go on a first date and not realise you’d actually end up with this person. Yup that actually happened.
Always tell someone where you're going just for safety reasons!
The beach, going for food or drinks, a walk are all first date ideas we’ve all heard about. It can be difficult to decide what you want to do especially if you’re nervous and unsure how it will go. I wouldn’t recommend inviting said person to your house or going to their house if this is the first time you’re meeting because you have no idea what they could be like.
I know a lot of people get nervous about the thought of going for food the first time you meet someone which is understandable. If you don’t like the person, you’re stuck there for a length of time. If this is the case, I’d recommend going for a walk. Somewhere you feel comfortable and suggest an area you know well. It’s not intimidating – you won’t be sitting opposite each other staring into each others eyes thinking ”do I have food stuck in my teeth?”. You can talk, walk and get to know each other without it being a ‘full on’ environment… and if there is an awkward silence you can just carry on walking and it’s not as intense.
If you take the food option but are still nervous, maybe suggest a place you’ve been to before where you know the menu or look up the menu online before you go just to get familiar with the place. Always trust your gut instinct so if you feel like you wanna leave, do so.
Tops, shirts & bodysuits
Skirts and trousers
I always find my mood is much better when I’ve fake tanned so do the things beforehand that make you feel the most confident whether that be getting your hair done, wearing a red lip or going to the gym a few hours before. Take a purse or bag with you to put lip gloss in, chewing gym whatever you think you need to take.
It’s completely normal to feel nervous before a first date. You kind of have to do that whole talking to yourself in the mirror and big yourself up attitude before walking out the door!
I recommend having some conversation starters or things to bring up in convo in your head. I’m not saying you have to have a whole bloody script planned but if you remember something they said over text and it’s something you can ask them more about… perhaps an interest or a hobby, bring it up and show you remembered. Don’t feel like you have to fill every awkward silence and just go with the flow. Be completely yourself because the right person will like that, don’t try and fake it. I know some people have set up codes with their friends eg if they text you asking how it’s going and you say ”awful”, they can come to the rescue!
Manners are everything so be nice. If someone doesn’t have good manners it’s an instant turn off for me! I couldn’t stand it if the person was glued to their phone. It’s like umm mate who you on the date with, your phone or me? Another thing to remember is don’t make the entire date about you. Of course talk about yourself but make sure you’re listening to them too.
''Knowing us girls we've probably stalked their entire Instagram page 20 times that morning before the date and could ask them how their family holiday in 2016 went. Don't do that!''
I hope you’ve found this First Date Guide useful and make sure to share it around to save a life! I’ll be back next week with another installment of my guide series and if it does all go tits up, I have this Moving On Guide post here for you to read so I definitely have your back!